Why is this game so lonely?
I've been playing for a while and I've noticed that most players don't care much about making end game content. Most prefer to acquire better equipment through tokens. Could it be because of the difficulty of Trials/Raids? And why do many players not insist on joining FCs?
I myself stopped doing endgame content since HW just because in Stormblood it was mandatory to watch guides and bring macros by must groups in my case must players require this from me. on the other hand I myself like learning the mechanics by making mistakes yet In my old prog groups it was fun for a while till I met enough toxic players that I was like ok that's it for me. At the end for me the reward doesn't justify the hassle and the suffering.
Most people playing aren't very kind at endgame so that's one reason. For FCs, I can only speak from my experience, but they have a tendency to fall apart or start adding requirements to force their members to engage in communication.
I agree about the unkind. I'm at the last part of Endwalker and got told I didn't know my buttons well because I died a few times having never done it. It's not endgame either I've run into a lot of snobby folks who make snide comments despite me having a fairly good record. Reminds me of the try-hards in Destiny, nobody did the endgame content there either and nobody like the raids. It's an oddly stressful part of the game when you have anxiety issues around people.
When I read your title I thought you meant playing with others and making friends but you seem to be talking about actual raiding.
I have found the secret to doing hard stuff is NOT to rely on the game itself to find groups but Discords devoted to running difficult FF14 stuff. They tend to be far nicer to people and much more tolerant.
Hell, look at me. I am probably old enough to be your grandparent, and I have done almost every raid and EX in the game MINE level. and I REALLY suck too. ;-)